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Sunday, December 30, 2012

Adoption Post

How I wish the title could be written backwards: Post-Adoption.  Won’t that be a great day?!

I can’t believe we’ve been a “Waiting Family” for 25 days.  Twenty-five looooooong days.  I’d be lying if I said that waiting for that phone call doesn’t’ cross my mind a good 25 times an hour.  It does.  It TOTALLY does.  I try to pray about it anytime I think about it, asking God for patience, but also letting him know that we’re ready, too!  Ha!

I always wonder how I will receive that magical call.  Unless you’ve been through the adoption wait, you probably can’t relate to this level of crazy, but I constantly come up with all the different scenarios and how it might play out.

Maybe I’ll be at school and miss the call.  Our social worker will call B, who will then call school and have me paged over the intercom.  I’ll be all caught off guard and break into tears in the middle of the office when B gets to share the good news with me. 

Maybe it will be a day that the house is a disaster and I haven’t left my pajamas.  And there’s a foot and half of snow outside, making it almost impossible to leave the house, let alone go pick up diapers for a baby that’s waiting for us at the hospital.

Or maybe it will happen over the summer, while I’m out of town and unable to get home quickly.  We’ll have to pack quickly and get home from vacation to pick up one of the greatest gifts we could ever imagine. 

Or maybe the call will come on an ordinary, boring day, where we’re just going through the motions and receiving our “matched” call is the furthest thing from my mind. 

The truth is that in the back of my mind – and sometimes in the forefront – is the thought that every passing day was supposed to be the day.  But then it wasn’t and I’m back to wondering whether the next day will be the day.  Sigh.  I wonder if it ever gets easier?

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I’ve really appreciated reading all of your comments – the well wishes, sharing in our excitement, or telling your own adoption story.  I love reading them and feeling the hope that others have been there or are right there with us or are just praying for our family. 

And, for those who’ve asked, we’re doing a domestic infant adoption.  Our agency says that placements usually occur anywhere from 6 months to 2 years after the completion of the home study (which we’ve completed), but, of course, it could happen at any time.  I’m faithful that God knows the best time for it to happen for us, but I’m only human and can’t help but wonder when that time will be!

If you or someone you know are considering adoption, you can check out our agency, our profile or the profiles of other amazing waiting families by clicking the picture below.  Our agency is also doing great work in Guatemala at the Hope for Tomorrow Children’s Home and assists many other families with domestic and international adoption. 


Have a great Sunday, friends! 


absees123s said...

What a wonderful post! Now that I've wiped the tears away, I want you to know that even though we have never met, you and your family will be at the top of my prayer list. I will also be asking several friends to pray for this blessing. You are so right..God knows the timing, but a few extra prayers couldn't hurt! :)

Jennjilla said...

My mom got the call that I was hers at school, crazy PA intercom style! They had hours to get an infant carseat (wasn't sure of baby age, they would have taken anything!) and baby girl clothes. Mom said we adrenaline was PUMPING! I'm sure it was so exciting!

Anonymous said...

As someone who has been there the call will transform an ordinary day into one of the best of your life. I took the call at the end of the day (right after introducing Grady the Groundhog to my firsties). You will never, ever forget the moment!


Jason, Betsy, Jackson said...

Remember our phone call just like it was yesterday! What a special day that was. Praying for you all!

Mommy Webb said...

I am so excited to hear all about the day you get the call - what a joyous day that will be for you and the boys!!! And your sweet babe, of course. Praying for speed and patience for y'all:). XO

Unknown said...

As a new mommy of a beautiful baby boy that we welcomed home through adoption in October, I can tell you that all the time spent waiting, praying, wishing and wanting for the call to come will all seem like a blink of an eye once your little one finds you. It WILL happen, and all you need to do is trust in His timing. When I got THE call one random Thursday afternoon after teaching all day, it made the months of waiting disappear. Keep the faith, and (try to) enjoy the wait. :)

Ashley said...

adoption weighs heavy on my heart, but not so much for my husband. Would you be willing to share how you two came to the decision to adopt? Was it a no-brainer for both of you, where you both felt the exact way, that God had lead you to adopt. Or did you or he have some hesitations. It's hard for me to calm my desire to adopt when I know my hubby doesn't feel called to do least right now.

Leisha said...

I will never ever forget the moment I got the "call" for each of my boys. Social media is a great way to connect with a birthfamily! You are you best advocate. We never sat around and waited for our agency to find us a match, we found both of our birthmom's online. One through an agency's website and one through a social networking site! It literally took us 18 months from start to finish to bring home two boys and that's with an adoption scam and a situation that we turned down.
Good luck!

Debbie said...

We call that day "gotcha day."

Each child knows that on gotcha day, God answered a special prayer and it is celebrated in a special way; maybe with a retelling of the story/looking at photos or with a special dinner or with a special charm or parent/child date.

Best wishes for peaceful waiting and joyous gotcha day.

Stacy said...

I got the call at work during my prep period, while sitting at my desk. And I got the picture on my phone (international adoption, my baby was already 5 weeks old) while I was working with students. Almost four years ago and I know exactly which student I was talking to when the phone beeped with the email.

And no, the wait never got easier. I got used to waiting, but it was never easy. Never. Sorry. :( But it's SOOOOOO worth the wait!